Single and Sassy

I have never been the world’s best housekeeper, but my habits got worse while in law school and studying for the bar exam. With working at the same time, there was just no time left for housekeeping. Because I live alone, I could get away with it. By no means, I am not a hoarder or anything like that. I just run out of steam before I can pick up my house. And it looks bad after a while.

I really need to get to the bottom of why I do this though. I think it stems from the fact that I did not like living in the house with my mother and father growing up. They were not very nice to me, and I was always wanting to be somewhere else and usually was. So I grew up not really thinking about my house as a priority. I was always wanting to be somewhere else.

But now, I need to get past all of this. It is really holding me back. I have started reading the website Flylady. Some of her suggestions are a little dorky, but she does have some good tips. I think I am going to follow her program. I really need to develop some new habits, and I think that is what her site is all about.

I had a couple of rude awakenings recently. A few weeks ago, a can of something or other that my sister gave me before she moved several years ago, exploded in my cabinet. Not good. Then, before I left on vacation, I thought I would open a can of tomato soup. Another bad surprise. It was all black and yucky inside. It was dated 2005.

I was under the mistaken assumption, I guess, that canned goods lasted forever. After all, didn’t they used to keep canned goods in bomb shelters for years and years?  (Maybe they used to use more preservatives, or something.) Anyway, this can was putrid, meaning the second bad can I had found in my pantry in about a month.

I told myself that as soon as I got back from vacation the first thing I would do is clean out my pantry and start over with canned goods. I did that today. And I was just watching an episode of Hoarding: Buried Alive and they were talking about the subject’s pantry, and that she had cans in there from 2005. Oh oh!

Here is a great article I saw on msnbc.com today. It talks about some mistakes you make that keep you single. I have done almost all of them at one time or other. Especially the mistake of trying to match your personality to that of your new boyfriend, in other words, creating a fake personality you think your boyfriend will like. It works in that you get along smashingly with your boyfriend, but it is not the real you, and the real you is sure to come out sooner or later. I have done that so many times ouch. But no more. I am not making these mistakes anymore, but I am still single. hmmmm. Maybe there is a part two to the article.

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/staticslideshowglamour.aspx?cp-documentid=25027529&GT1=32071

sometimes lonliness sneaks up on you. I am normally happy and content by myself, but once in a while, BOOM–there it is. And there is no one here to talk to. I just got back from a week’s vacation and am used to being around someone. Now the week is over, and I am home and a tad lonely. It will be fine. I will get back into the routine of my life, and it will pass. But sometimes it hits you, and you wish you had someone right there with you.

I just heard the definition of “cougar” while watching the TV series Strange Sex. According to the 72-year-old cougar they highlighted on the show, a cougar is a woman over the age of 40 who is dating a man at least eight years younger. Glad to really know what a cougar is. I am over 40, but have never dated a man that much younger. So for the time being, I am not a cougar!

A friend of mine from law school wrote on facebook that she was already making her kids’ Halloween costumes. I couldn’t believe it! I wrote back, saying, “Aren’t you a little ahead of schedule?” To me, I would never think about Halloween costumes more than a couple of weeks ahead of time. She said yes, but that she wanted to go ahead and get them done. She will find out if she passed the bar exam the second week of October, and in case she didn’t pass, she wants this out of the way. (I don’t think she has anything to worry about in that regard–she is very smart.)

I asked her what kind of costumes she was thinking about. She said that if she made them, her kids would probablly go as pirates, but if she bought them, they would probably get either Indiana Jones Costumes or Disney costumes.

I admire her for thinking so far ahead. But when you are a mother, have a job, and just took the bar exam, you have to be efficient.

When my friend and I arrived at Hilton Head last week, we were dismayed to see that the weather report was not good: storms all week. Well, that was wrong! And I am so glad. We had a storm the first day and last evening of the week. The rest was hot and sunny, and just right for the beach and the pool. It was perfect. Good beach time and good girlfriend time. Am relaxed too. Can’t ask for more than that.

I am down in Hilton Head with a girlfriend. We came down for her birthday. We are staying in a beautiful condo. Unfortunately, the weather is not cooperating. It rained yesterday and again today. Good time to curl up with a good book. Glad I brough several. Think the weather will be better tomorrow–I want some good beach time!

I saw the first show in this episoded, and I have to say I was underwhelmed. Not enough drama. At least, not enough drama, as compared to the other Real Housewives series. Maybe it takes a while for it to rachet up? I don’t remember how long it took the others. I never watched the Atlanta one, and I didn’t see the first seasons of Orange County. I think NYC heated up pretty quickly. I think the English woman on the D.C. series is going to be a real bitch. The state dinner party crasher actually seemed kind of nice. But thin, as everyone seemed to point out.

The drama surrounding Danielle on this show keeps mounting. Sometimes I like her, but she does always up the ante. On tonight’s show, she gets shrieky with Kim G. I can relate to Kim G. Just trying to be everyone’s friend and to get along and not be stuck in the middle. That may not be the case anymore. Kim G. got pretty hot tonight. Good girl. You have to say you don’t want to be in the middle. And then you can breathe.

I actually can’t wait until the Real Housewives of D.C. Fun!